At the beginning, you try to find all the positive aspects: travelling all the time to reach the other one is nice, you may be even thrilled to catch the train/bus/car/airplane/whatever in order to be with him/her; staying in another place seems like a nice change of scenery, as if you just found another home, where you sort of belong.
All in all, it's actually not so bad!
But after months, or, worse, years the thrill begins to fade.
You realize that travelling is just a waste of the time you could spend together. The other one's house is familiar, but you don't really belong there: the bed is not as comfortable as the one back at home, the bathroom is not your own, meals are at different hours and have a different taste... You just don't fit in the schedules of other people. I know, all this things are almost trivial if taken individually. But if you add them up and multiply them per years... They can be pretty boring, can't they?
And you also realize that even your home is not okay, because you do not have your loved one with you.
So what?
Well, at first you try to go on like you've always done, considering all the hustle and bustle as your routine.
But it's incredibly tiring!
You start to resent the situation and you think about building a nest, just for you two.
But where to start?
How can you build a nest if you don't even have the twigs to put it together? Or worse, if you cannot even find the right tree to build it on?!
It really becomes a problem. But there's not much to do. You just have to endure. And you have to do it, because, if the relationship is worth it, after a lot of travelling back and forth, you'll find a place.
Maybe it will not be the perfect one right away; maybe you'll use abandoned and shaky nests before, too little or too exposed, or on the wrong tree.
But in the end, if you keep searching and if you keep storing up twigs, you'll be able to build your own, real nest, comfortable and warm, on the strongest tree and well repaired from the rest of the world.
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